STOP THE LISTS!
It’s high school, fuck it, read some books, watch some films, do your school work, get good grades, write, pay attention to everything around, observation is important, reject peer pressure, do what you want, never be a sheep, speak your mind but know when to listen, it’s three more years, that’s nothing, refuse to allow angst to hold sway over your emotions, it’s high school, fuck it.
at least u have us which is far more than i ever had. everything seems like the end of the world when you’re 15. i know you’re also not likely to listen to anyone but i hope it helps to know you’re not all alone
Watch Splendor in the Grass, The Breakfast Club, numerous other high school movies from any decade, you’ll see many of the same things you’re dealing with, and the truth is after high school, college and the work place are just a bigger version of high school, important thing is to like yourself for who you are, once you like you, others will like you. Just remember that it’s all bullshit and completely absurd, laughably so.
@Ruby
I do listen, and it feels great listening there is something much better after these three miserable years.
Thanks for your responses.
@Bijoux
I’m afraid of clubs after the hip-hop club I was in during middle school.
Well….maybe try a different club. Maybe drama (you can be behind the scenes if acting isn’t your thing) . Or yearbook .
“Right now, it seems like I have fun and fail, or be smart and be miserable for three more years.”
Being smart is fun, as is having goals and achievements.
“I don’t want to get high to have permanent friends in high school, but most of the kids here are stoners indeed… Fucking indeed…”
Getting high won’t get you permanent friends. Also, it’s not really all that fun. As an experiential (experimental) digression it has its attractions but ultimately it’s a Red Queen zero-sum game.
“I can’t help but feel angry at that.”
As others have said, you need to let that go. I spent overly too much time standing in scrutiny and judgment of stoners and it really didn’t help me just enjoy life and it certainly didn’t help them gain perspective on how not to be a stoner. Your anger is best spent translated into art or something, really.
As for your anecdote about the girl turning away, I’m going to say the same line that made me nearly want to rampage a gatling gun through my own forehead to end all the frustration:
You’re thinking too much.
Which always annoyed the shit out of me because, like, I’m a thinker, I think, so no I’m not going to fucking stop thinking just to be socially not awkward! right?
What it really means is that you’re reading in too much symbolism/subtext on things you’re not there and that processing power in your mind is better spent just listening and observing how people act, not attempting to mime it. The fact is that they’re all as awkward as you are but are keeping to safe areas, as they see it. Talking to you is going to be awkward for her because she doesn’t know why you’re engaging her so she’s going to physically turn to her friend for support because then she’ll feel more safe. This stuff is wayyyyyyyyyyyyy overpronounced in high school but it always exists always forever throughout the rest of life. Don’t get too worried about that latter point though, don’t think it’ll never end, because the fact is by the time you get to ‘the rest of life’ you’ll have learned how to handle this shit. You’ll get this game down.
—PolarisDiB
@lover: Just don’t get existential depression like I did. Don’t doubt the fact that somebody cares that you are in this world. And hold on to what you have.
Wait a minute. Are you at school right now?
existential depression
I think I am experiencing this. But the thing is, I like the feeling. It’s like Charlotte from LiT, without the crying.
@LoC (did you add the ‘le’ part recently?)
Look here young buck, stick to what I told you in the PM. It’s all about that. Even if they are standing in a circle, walk in like a boss. We’re talking about 15 year old girls here. They are clueless about what they like. They just want someone who is sure of themselves cause they sure as heck aren’t.
Find something you have in common, or in your case you will have to make one up since you probably won’t have similar interests.
Here’s a gem from my pick up artist file, LoC:
ask her to touch the sleeve of your shirt
“Do you know what material this is” you say
“idk”
“boyfriend material”
boom she’s giggling and you’re in.
thank me later.
Also, don’t let anyone tell you you need to dumb yourself down, but there’s a difference between dumbing yourself down and not treating other people like they’re stupid.
“boom she’s giggling and you’re in.
thank me later."
“Do you know how much a polar bear weighs?”
“Um… no, how much?”
“Enough to break the ice. Hi I’m LeLoverofleCinema”
—PolarisDiB
no, that won’t work, don’t use lines, just be a regular person. every girl you’re scouting is going through the same shit, even the hot ones.
no, that won’t work, don’t use lines, just be a regular person. every girl you’re scouting is going through the same shit, even the hot ones.
tongue in cheek lines work. what you say afterwards is where you make or break it.
_then decided i’d rather have fun and was kicked out at 16 (from home and school). _
Ruby Stevens was a badass? Would not have guessed that.
Boy says to hot girl he has never met: ‘Will you touch my sleeve?’
Girl hears, correctly, from creepy weird cheese-boy: ‘Will you touch my penis?’
She’s giggling. In horror.
I wonder if the line:
‘You know, if I could rearrange the alphabet, I’d sort by frequency of use’
would work on nerdy girls.
Yeah, lines are basically a bad idea. Just use body language to make it clear that you’re interested, ask them questions that let them talk about themselves, and affirm what they say instead of negating it and making them feel stupid. And don’t give up if you fail the first few times.
or just offer to do their homework for a week
Please, LC, avoid the pickup lines and be yourself!!
hmm don’t know about a badass but i’ve always been antisocial and had problems with authority. it hasn’t served me very well in life but guess what? i know how to not give a fuck
it’s also important to, especially in high school, not go after the ungettable get, peer pressure is a bitch and the popular girls are gonna stick to the popular guys. If you dare to think there are no girls like you in the school, you’re wrong, incredibly wrong, ignorantly-blind wrong, to-caught-up-in-your-own-world wrong, you can’t be afraid yo put yourself out there (and why did you try the hip-hop club?), keep your eyes open and see who is reading the same book, listen and who us talking about the same movies, etc etc etc etc.
well, Ruby, I got kicked out of two grade school by the time I was 11, and protested by Econ class because I disagree with our greed-based system, and nearly got kicked out of two other schools because of my anti-authority behavior.
Oh man, this one is good:
—DiB
or just offer to do their homework for a week
let us not turn LoC into a white knight.
for those of you shitting on the idea of using a line:
how would you cold approach a girl?
what would be the mubi way of getting a girls contact info?
how would you cold approach a girl?
You don’t. It’s all about eye contact first, if you feel like she’s interested then you approach her.
Double post.
how would you cold approach a girl?
‘I can’t believe we’re the only two people that wanted to see the latest Godard movie ♥♥♥’
Bijoux Alexanderplatz
For cereal, listen to Rubes. One day high school will be a distant memory. Have you maybe tried joining some clubs??
Oh, and re Jerry and Uli : I never went to film school. Changed my major to English and now teach.