A lot of people here are married and I’ve always wondered what spouses of cinephiles think about their loved ones’ obsession with movies. Does your spouse share in your love of good films? Do they dismiss it as just a personality quirk or try to ignore it altogether? I’m curious if your love of cinema has ever been a cause of arguement with your spouse or family member. And I don’t restrict this question to people who are married. What about those of you who live at home or are close to your family? Do they respect and support your interest? Do they try to understand why you love films so much?
My immediate family has always been supportive, particularly because this is the profession I’ve chosen and they want to support my goal of being a filmmaker. There are some in my extended family who might not understand it since it’s not a practical occupation but even then, nobody has ever said I’m foolish for taking this path. And my longtime girlfriend (ex-girlfriend now) was a big movie fan, although she liked more recent stuff and wasn’t into film analysis or anything like that.
But I’m interested to know what other people’s experience has been with this and if most people out there are supportive of cinema and cinema lovers or if look down on cinephiles.
My entire family supports me. My mom is even paying for me to go to film school, so I guess that proves it.
Pretty much everyone is supportive except my dad. He’s indifferent toward it. He doesn’t like movies made after the ‘50s, and I don’t hold anything against him.
I don’t harbor an overwhelming obsession for cinema. I just have a taste for it. There are things I like more.
My family supports me, but my mom and sister often get annoyed with me. My mom thinks I need to have more interests, and I have a feeling doesn’t fully get how much film means to me. My sister thinks I am condescending, but here is an example of a conversation with her:
“Jillian: Oh my God how good is Slumdog Millionaire!
Drew: I didn’t like it.
Jillian: Wow. Could you be any more condescending?”
My family is indifferent. My dad say’s “I saw that 40 years ago” to damn near everything…or he brushes it off as not being worth it like the “greats” of a director’s cannon.
my girlfriend is fine with it…which is fantastic.
Now I need to watch fewer films and become a productive member of society.
My cat just sits there with that vacuous look in her eyes. Those eyes are dead eyes. That wasn’t a hiss, it was a curse. Eventually she will wander off in disgust casually looking over her shoulder, mocking my very existence, and disappear into a darkened corner, waiting.
both my dad and stepmom have film degrees so they encourage me watching a shitton of movies.
my mom hates the majority of what i watch because it’s too dark. and when i watch things she doesn’t approve of she tells me to “get off of my ass once in a while.” but if she likes whatever movie i’m watching, which is very rare, she’ll shut up haha.
@Zoe – What is that like, having two parents with film degrees? Do you guys constantly talk and argue about film? At the very least, if they have degrees in film they can appreciate and have seen good cinema, which has to be really nice.
They wish I’d shut the fuck up.
My grandfather actually said this once: “I don’t go to movies. It’s a waste of time.” My father fell not too far from the tree, but rolled away a little; he won’t see a movie twice. My mom likes the classics. My wife likes crap.
So thank God for my brother, who loves film as much as me. We’re going to make one together.
My family humors me. My girlfriend humors me. And I live with her. I’m lucky, I guess.
same here Josh my brother, although only 15, has a good eye for worthy cinema.
None of my family really understands. My parents refuse to watch anything that isn’t “feel-good”, even if it IS a Hollywood movie.
My brothers think I’m insane
My friends them I’m “snobbish”
They all support me, though. That’s what really matters.
I support you, Quertie.
Good luck with your play, Drew.
How many times have I endured remarks like, “There’s this new invention that goes with movies now. It’s called color.” Or, “I want to watch the movie, not read it.” Next time we all get together, I’m bringing Gummo (which I ABHOR).
I understand how you feel Qwertie. My parents aren’t very supportive either. None of my friends are really interested in anything outside of the mainstream… and I have since been labelled “pretentious” as well. :(
In order for my wife to watch a movie, there needs to be a 2001ish alignment of sun moons and planets. So needless to say, she finds it astounding that I can watch a movie, take it out, pop in another, ad infinitum.
My wife thinks that Harry Potter movies are better than anything else in the history of the world. As you can imagine, most of my viewing is solitary.
My love transformed into a paying career which sends them to exotic places all over the globe. They seem to be cool with it.
My family thinks the movies i watch are just too artsy or plain boring. My dad will sit with me every once in a while only to start snoring midway through the movie!
Oh my god, this stuff is hilarious! You poor poor people. Zoe, do you SEE how lucky you are! lol
“My mom likes the classics. My wife likes crap.”
“My wife thinks that Harry Potter movies are better than anything else in the history of the world”
“In order for my wife to watch a movie, there needs to be a 2001ish alignment of sun moons and planets”
Good luck with your wives, fellas.
@ soybean: if you composed that on the spot, kudos.
I’m so glad my plunge into the film world started when I was single. It also may explain why I’m still single…
My parents want me to be an actor of all things. You’ve got to be kidding me. An actor? It’s bad enough I want to be a writer. Jeez.
My girlfriend speaks 5 languages so she’ll watch any foreign film I pop into the DVD player. She’s got good taste, too. No popcorn movies. Give her raw, unconventional, imaginative flicks. She’s my muse.
They truly don’t give a shit. I can pretty much watch whatever the hell I want.
>In order for my wife to watch a movie, there needs to be a 2001ish alignment of sun moons and planets”
Hahaha, great line.
The family is shipping me off to the mental institution soon.
I used to show (good) movies to my children since they were 3. Now, 10 years later, I sometimes regret it because they know how to run the video-projector and I often have to wait until late at night in order to watch a film… My wife is cool, she knows I need to watch a film a day in order to digest the stress of a working day.
They put up with me using their basement as a movie library. Maybe a thousand and counting…
My relationship with my g/friend is aces regarding my obsession. When we began dating I knew I would soon love her when I took her to see ‘Those Who Love Me Can Take The Train" which she found to be deeply moving. But the biggie was taking her to see “Flowers Of shanghai”. She melted over it. She now loves Hou, Chereau and Denis. When we’re out, she’ll stand patiently as I take photographs. For my part, I wait patiently while she shops for shoes and handbags. So it’s all good.