My boyfriend often falls asleep when I choose movies. Which is better because then I don’t worry about him being awake and bored. When I start talking about movies around his family, they get really quiet. He didn’t grow up watching movies. I was practically raised on movies.
But to the same extent, my family doesn’t get my film preferences. My mom said to me point-blank one time, “Why do you like old movies?”
Since I only live with my parents, they pretty much support my habbit. My dad likes to make jokes about how I can never get any movies without subtitles from time to time though.
Family? What family? I disowned them when they told me that they won’t sit through boring movies like L’Avventura…
Has anyone seen “Cinemania”?
I just keep it to myself — I know most of my friends / family don’t really care what I think about “I Am Curious” or whatever, and I’m fine with them not caring, because I don’t care about some of their interests, either.
When I lived at home, my father could never understand why my film collection was so big. He comes from the “Why would you want to buy a movie you’ve already seen?” camp. I can remember coming home many times and finding my movies all askew and out of place which always meant “Oh God. They watched one of my movies…”
“Dad, did you guys watch one of my movies?”
“That Kaspar Hauser one.”
“What did you think?”
“It was terrible. What a waste of time.”
“What? It’s a masterpiece! That’s one of my favorite films!”
“Yeah right! That little old guy was the only good part in the whole movie! Plus we didn’t know it was gonna be one of those subtitled ones!”
“What’s wrong with that?”
“I like to actually be able to see the movie, not read the whole time.”
“Next time just ask…”
i showed my sister ‘the age of innocence’ in an effort to help her reconsider her unfounded passion for ‘transformers.’ Halfway through the movie she said the film reminded her of watching paint dry. Not only that but everytime she sees me watching a barry lyndon or a james ivory film or any other period piece, she comes up to me, smiles, and says, “oh, another age of innocence movie.”
i don’t even try with my parents
Well, I’m married, and my wife understands. She’s not as passionate as me, but if I want her to watch “The Man With the Movie Camera”, she will. She has a weird taste for vampire movies, so on occasion I oblige her. Otherwise, I don’t have to exactly pull teeth for her to watch something outside of the mainstream.
My parents are supportive, but I don’t think they really understand. That’s fine by me, because I haven’t lived at home in a decade, and so I don’t have to engage in frequent discussion about it. They don’t watch movies very often, and when they do it’s pretty standard fare. They don’t roll their eyes at me, but they do grasp that I watch movies sometimes for very different reasons than they do. It’s all good.
My family thinks it’s cool but they don’t understand the whole part of “it takes money to make money” when it comes to making my own movies. If I told them what I spent on my HD camera I use to shoot with they would probably freak out. But we all love movies, growing up around them I went to see tons of films with them. It’s the main thing that we can all agree on…what good films to check out together.
>>“Jillian: Oh my God how good is Slumdog Millionaire!
Drew: I didn’t like it.
Jillian: Wow. Could you be any more condescending?”<<
Had to be your tone of voice. But then I’ve noticed that certain people react quite violently to one’s merely noting one didn’t like PONDSCUM MILLIONAIRE.
>>My cat just sits there with that vacuous look in her eyes. Those eyes are dead eyes. That wasn’t a hiss, it was a curse. Eventually she will wander off in disgust casually looking over her shoulder, mocking my very existence, and disappear into a darkened corner, waiting.<<
My cats are okay with movies.
Except porno movies.
They can’t be on my lap while I’m watching one of those.
They think I need to get a life which is true but I still love cinema.
Mom: “I kinda wanna watch a movie tonight…”
Me: “Well, I’ve got plenty! What are you in the mood for? Italian neorealism? A surreal Bunuel piece? Ooh, ooh I just bought Bergman’s the Seventh Seal! And I’ve got—”
Mom: “Let’s watch Practical Magic!”
Me: ::sulks away::
My girlfriend and I watch great stuff. She bought me my first Criterion, which was amazing. My sister also watches a lot of the same stuff I do (sans the foreign…).
Family? Every time I try to watch a film with anyone they end up falling asleep or annoying me with irrelevant questions to the point that I turn off the film and we just end up making love instead. It doesn’t help that I reside in the mecca of all things vanity and cocaine-inducing bs, I think Flics are more personal than anything: No one will ever understand what we see, and THAT is excellent.
My family didn’t agree with my career choice, so i chopped them up. LOL
@ Hopelessly Addicted
never heard about before, is it worth the time?
“No one will ever understand what we see, and THAT is excellent.”
You go Rick!
For anyone curious about the documentary ‘Cinemania’, which Hopelessly Addicted mentioned, here’s an old thread about it with a link to watch the film online: http://www.theauteurs.com/topics/1456/comments
Whenever my Dad says “You’ll be a doctor, son.” I always reply, “Yes I’ll create one Dad, but that will be a character in my script, not me”. Then he sighs, lamenting, and walks away.
My parents just think I’m pretentious and get upset when I don’t want to watch things like 27 Dresses or Gran Tarino with them.
I think every (aspiring) cinephile must see it. It is a documentary about extreme addiction. It is funny, sad and scary – sometimes at the same time.
My Mom and Sister both think Transformers is a great film, and my Dad hates any movie were someone doesn’t get shot or brutally chopped up , and they all hate documentaries, and I haven’t ever seen a boring film and I sat through 2001: A Space Odyssey and The 400 Blows, back to back, so I don’t know, my family is split between Commercial Films and Commercial Films trying to be Artistic, while I just love good films.
No one in my house touched my DVDs and BluRays. I love movies for art and passion while everyone else wants it just to kill time. So when i have things like Criterion editions movies, the rest of my family has a boxset for Transformers. (Oh, and they all hate me now for saying Transformers 2 is a giant piece of dog crap!)
As an African-American in the South (Texas), my family is almost completely oblivious to my love of film (they probably wonder where the hell I came from) – I’ve shown my mom Sunrise, but I could tell that it went in one side and out the other (she wants emotions displayed on a Lifetime level)…
Last weekend, during a visit to my grandmother’s house in Louisiana – I brought some movies, and going through the stack of movies, I had to preface everything (anything foreign, PG-13 or worse she doesn’t want to watch) – my dad contemptiously saying, “he reads all of his movies” – this from a man that watches Eagle Eye anytime it comes on HBO, or TV movies from SciFi – he has decent tastes in classic AMERICAN movies, but since he was raised on Saturday moring dubbed Kung-Fu movies, he’s ignorant of anything foreign – I tried to show him Seven Samurai a while ago, thinking he could relate to the film because of The Magnificent Seven, but the first thing out of his mouth is “don’t they have it dubbed in English…” I gave up after that.
My brother could possibly enjoy good movies, but only if I sit him down to watch them – Apocalypse Now Redux, The Godfather Trilogy, Monster, Almost Famous, but he would still rather watch Saw XXIV. (His wife, God knows I love her, enjoyed White Chicks – nuff said)
That being said, they’re supportive enough to get me films that I ask for on my birthday and for Christmas (five days apart).
I don’t know if they really make any big deal one way or the other. Though I do get the feeling sometimes they think I’ll just watch anything ‘cause it was put on ’film’. ;)
My dad seems alright with it and will often watch stuff with me. He really liked ‘2046’ which is positive, though generally he isn’t too big on black and white films, likes films to have clear plots, dislikes long films and once in a while he will moan when I put in another subtitled film.
My mum seems quite supportive. She’s getting me a BFI membership without any hinting on my part that I wanted it and will watch most stuff with me as long as it isn’t too violent, scary or emotional. Also she doesn’t mind B+W or subtitles which is a huge positive.
“That being said, they’re supportive enough to get me films that I ask for on my birthday and for Christmas (five days apart).”
Three days :D
And yeah, everyone seems supportive with that. Heck, my uncle got me The Apu Trilogy last Christmas/Birthday!
Is there anyone on here who’s got a family of cinephiles? :D
Kelvin- 5 Days
William- 3 Days
Drew- 1 Day
My mom wishes I liked something “normal” like baseball.
My dad fully supports me and is happy I am so pationate about something which is strange because he is the one who actually likes baseball, and I would assume he would want a son with the same interests.
My sister just thinks I’m pretentious.
My father, who has now passed away, was very encouraging of my film interests. In fact, when I was younger, he took me to the art museum on Saturdays when they were showing old films. My mother also encourages my film interests. My father couldn’t understand, for the most part, why you would want to own a film and watch it over and over again, except for a few films they both like a lot like the Sound of Music and they have both watched numerous times. Over the years, they have bought me tapes, DVDs and books relating to cinema. My brother and my sister-in-law also, like me, like all sorts of cinema, so my family is behind me in my film interests. I am grateful for their support. A few of my friends will watch movies over and over again and some own a fair collection of movies so, for the most part, they love to talk about film like I do.
You’re lucky to have family and friends who love films just as much. :)