I feel like this film was aimed to be seen by conservative people cause they don't get it unless it was explained in their own language/point of view.So I think that Kitty and Jenny's apparent,maybe a little irritating,physical distance was built in order not to scare those old-fashioned,ready-to-cringe audience.But for us,who expects a full-on queer film,it was a bit of a tease.But I respect the challenge behind it.
This movie invites attractive and traditionally feminine presenting lesbians into "normal" society, as long as they are interested in a nuclear family with white wedding dresses, green grass, and a white picket fence. It constantly reasserts that marriage is something everyone wants and that "people with green grass are happy." It could have been more terrible though.
This film feels like a big family dinner where your parents invite your relatives over and you have to listen to their heteronormative conversations about renos and your cousin's trip to the Bahamas and your aunt's second husband, and after half an hour of all that, you're just itching to leave the table. This is not really a queer film, it's an Ally film. Very Heterocentric
I'm biased, as I'm desperate for any movies about wlw that end happily, even if this movie wasn't ABOUT their relationship. Normally, I hate movies where the focus is how someone else's struggle is affecting the family, but I thought Donoghue managed to pull it off. I thought Jenny and Kitty's relationship wasn't the healthiest, but I'm not in a position to complain: a lesbian romcom? Awesome.
Don't expect too much and you'll leave feeling something resembling the warm and fuzzies. The scenes with Jenny and Kitty are often unconvincing which is funny because lesbians, even long-term couples, are always all up in each other's space! I can't blame Jenny for not coming out to her dimwitted family; the fact that she's penalized for lying and they're not for homophobia is tiring. Gummer is a constant delight.
You don't get to see how the girls built their relationship as they were already "there", like best friends already married. Alexis' character is on the sidelines (just to make that clear). Yes, which is my only woe. But then again, if you missed the point, it's really about Jenny and her "family". I loved the film and what it stands for. Great script between Jenny and her parents. I cried, I smiled.. It felt good.